After many months of trial, error, guilt and indecision, I finally decided that Jay would do better with a more experienced dog owner. It was with a heavy heart and a lot of tears that I dropped Jay off at his new home yesterday, but in the end I believe I did what’s best, both for me and the dog.
Going through all of this has been a long process, and I don’t really feel like rehashing all of the emotions from recent weeks. If you wish to read some of the story, you can read my posts / discussions on the pet forums:
- Not sure if I can do this… (petforums.co.uk)
- Jay – Gorgeous Border Collie with a Heart of Gold (dogpages.co.uk)
As hard as this has been, I do believe Jay is in a better place. He’s gone full circle, from Brecon and Cardiff in South Wales, to me in Wiltshire, to his new home in North Wales.
Seeing his new home, a small rescue on a nice farm overlooking the hills, helped put me at ease that I was doing right by this dog. I truly believe that the people there will help Jay overcome is issues and rise to his full potential. They already have an owner lined up for after Jay’s been through his training and rehabilitation.
A while ago I asked if dogs were the secret to lifelong health and happiness. After six months with Jay, I think there might be something to it. But I think there’s also something to choosing the right dog that fits your lifestyle and experience. Jay and I weren’t right for each other, but just like Jay has (hopefully) found a new place that’s right for him, I hope there’s a dog out there that’s right for me.
But first I’m going to take a good long while to get over Jay, focus on my own well-being, and get my life back in order before I consider another dog again.
A few thank-yous to some special people who have helped me deal:
- To the marvellous marvellous people on dogspages.co.uk and petforums.co.uk. I have never before experienced such kindness and support from such a phenomenal group of total strangers.
- To Happy Days Animal Rescue for taking in Jay and giving him a new lease on life
- To Barbara Sykes of Mainline Border Collie Centre for her support in training and rehoming Jay
- To Rachel from True Canine for her tireless emails and phone calls
- To my mom and sis for their listening, and sharing their own stories of animal training through their horses
- To Tim who is always there for me